Is Black Love Obsolete?

It seems true Love has not yet found me. I am not one to engage in promiscuous behavior therefore one night stands and flings don't appeal to me. I am from the old school and believe a Queen must preserve herself for her King. She should draw attention from possible suitors based on her intellect and not her body therefore, I will not go out seeking an individual solely to fulfill my physical needs. I await a soulmate, one who will make me forget about any negative experiences that I have ever encountered during the dating faze. I admit, I have witnessed outrageous behavior from a few Brothers but I can not classify all Brothers in the same category. In my past I dated Brothers who were not relationship material, were non monogamous, aimlessly wondering through Life seeking others to try to manipulate or use for their own personal gain. My past experiences led me to write and record a song on my new CD The Reawakening 2012. The song is called Soulmate. The song speaks about my negative experiences with seeking Love. I created the song because the negative experiences I had caused me to question my faith in Love. I have never been in Love but I long to know the feeling of being totally committed and Loving another to the point of no return. I know I will one day be in Love and connected with a Soulmate but right now I am a Warrior Queen who has much work to do in the Struggle. My music and mission to reach the People takes precedence over seeking Love. When the time is right I will find Love but I must seek an individual who will not stifle me and take me off course with the work I must do. I am a very complexed individual and I am not sure anyone can find all the pieces to my puzzle but I seek one who can come pretty darn close. I admit I have major trust issues based on my past negative experiences but if one is upright, honest and genuine I will eventually begin to let my guards down. My potential mate must have patience, compassion and understanding if they want to penetrate my mind. Many times situations and negative experiences can create a mental void when it comes to seeking Love. I did not want my past experiences to make me become bitter. I could not allow myself  to classify all men as being disrespectful, unfaithful and insensitive. I know there are some good Brothers out there but the task is being able to decipher those who are sincere and genuine from those who are gamers with ulterior motives. When we seek mates we must ask for guidance and decernment. When you look at Black Love in general you begin to see why there is a major disconnect. To many times I have heard Sistas referring to Brothers as dogs, no good, lazy and other negative titles. I have also witnessed Brothers using derogatory names for Sistas. The bottom line is, we can not appreciate Black Love until we change our outlook on one another. When we show disrespect we continue to stifle our own growth preventing the union of Gods and Goddesses. We must also realize our negative behavior will send negative messages to the Black youth. We can't allow Society to dictate who we choose as mates we must reclaim Black Love and celebrate it to the fullest. It is time we begin seeing one another as worthy components for relationships. We need to see one another as Kings and Queens, Gods and Goddesses. When we open our hearts and elevate our minds only then will we restore Black Love.